dont abide by what your friends think is wrong or right. only you are in your relationship & now whats right for you. take it at the pace you are comfortable with & thats all that matters. 2 months is still really early...

Posted by ... on Tuesday, 06/5/07 - 11:36pm

I can't imagine the pressure that is put on today's teenagers, I am glad that society was a little different 5 years ago. But I must say that you should not be influenced by your friends. Having sex is one of the most major decisions that you will make in your life so make sure that it is for all the right reasons.

Posted by Alex on Wednesday, 06/6/07 - 2:15am

Honey, don't rush anything. Your sexual status is a private matter and your friends should be considerate and respect you enough to not even ask (which is totally just my quirky self talking so take that with a grain of salt). My point is do what you feel in your heart to be right not anything else at all (and though I may get guff for this...not even your parents. Your life is your life. period.) This is a life altering decision and you can't forget that once your virginity is gone you can never get it back. If you think you're emotionally ready, have weighed the consequences of such a decision, and love the man I sincerely hope it's everything you wished it would be. If not then more power to you just the same. And if you choose to sleep with him I hope to peer pressure you into multiple forms of contraception (get on the pill, use a condom, and anything else your doctor can recommend). A baby is a quick way to ruin a young life full of opportunity. I wish you the best of luck in this big decision and keep us updated.

Posted by Ashes on Wednesday, 06/6/07 - 9:17am

I know how you feel. I lost my virgintiy to my boyfrind when I was your age (it wasn't that long ago) and i totally regret it. my advice is to talk to your boyfrind about it in a CALM situation (not while you're making out on the bed :-D). See what he has to say about it.

As for your friends, tell them to knock it off. You don't have to do anything just because your frinds want you to. If it helps, whenever they ask you how far you've gone, you can always turn the question back on them (unless you already know). It helps to have a smart ass comeback.

Good Luck

Posted by JH on Wednesday, 06/13/07 - 5:01am

Wow. Peer Pressure. Its not the first time it has happened to anyone, your not alone. I think your friends either just say that they had sex or that they really had sex to just be like everyone else.

Posted by [dot] on Friday, 06/15/07 - 9:12pm

woah. i dont know if you'll ever read this since its coming so late after you posted that bomb. but here goes. Im in the exact same situation as you, cept ima guy. Truth is, i want to push things too but i dont know if shes ready. so just talk to him, im sure hes thinking the same thing.

Good luckk.

Posted by 2 months on Tuesday, 06/26/07 - 11:54am

Hey there. I have to be honest, my first thought is to tell you to resist. But that's too easy for me to say when I'm not you and I'm not in that position. All I'd ask, then, is for you to think about your wedding night. No, I'm not preaching about saving yourself and stuff, its just, if you have sex with him now, and then get married later on, what will be left to share on your wedding night? How will it be special or different from any other night? If you don't marry him, what about the guy you do marry? How will that wedding night with him be with the memory of another guy? Methinks that both guys and girls should ask this question of themselves these days.

Posted by Steve on Thursday, 06/28/07 - 12:53am

UPDATE:
have done sexual things but no actual sex yet. ignored friend who was pressuring me.
it been nearly 6 months and i love him v much :)

Posted by Original Poster on Wednesday, 09/26/07 - 2:59pm

Only move as fast as you want to and not because of pressure from your "friends".

Posted by digita on Thursday, 12/18/08 - 11:57pm