If you masturbate with your fingers or a dildo a few times leading up to it you will not be in as much pain the first time and will be able to enjoy it more. The hymen doesn't have to tear, it can stretch, and not all hymens are thick or even there! It didn't hurt the first time I had sex; I loved it. Good luck and I hope you and your partner have talked this over and are safe, consensual, and considerate!

Posted by Liz on Monday, 07/2/07 - 8:40pm

Its not supposed to hurt not the first time not ever.. if you are aroused and ready and well lubricated it will happen naturally. Take your time during foreplay and be safe.

Posted by Lucy on Wednesday, 07/4/07 - 12:07pm