You deserve so much better than this. If they're not going to respect you as a person, you need to find some other friends.

Posted by Ashley on Friday, 11/2/07 - 7:31am

there's a lot worse things than not having people who don't respect you as friends...i'm sure there are a lot of people out there that like you for who u are...respect yourself enough to get away from these jerks,,,good luck

Posted by mey on Friday, 11/2/07 - 9:17am

Hopefully you live in an area where there is ZERO tolerance and if you do, tell someone at the school and it should stop! You should not have to be picked on/teased like that. Show them the bookbag they wrote on too! Find other friends to hang with, otherwise you will just keep getting hurt. Like mey said, respect yourself enough to get away from these jerks! Don't put up with their crap! Good luck!

Posted by b on Friday, 11/2/07 - 11:42am

Ditch them. I know it will suck to be by yourself for a while. Maybe you'll have to eat lunch alone for a while. But in the end it will piss them off and make them feel like complete garbage. Be the bigger person by walking away. Ask yourself this...10 years from now, will these assholes even matter in your life? I'm 24 now and the bitches that bullied me in school are all long gone. The worst of them actually ended up dropping out and getting knocked up. Now I work for the states attorneys and I faced her not long ago. She was in court on her 4th or 5th drug conviction. She was sent to jail for a year. Sweet revenge, just to look her in the face and smirk as she was being taken away to jail.

Anyway, The better person always wins in the end. Even if it takes 10 years!

Posted by L on Saturday, 11/3/07 - 9:51am

Sweets, you're going to have to learn that sometimes being alone is better than feeling like sh#t. What you are experiencing is called 'relational bullying' and it WILL affect you for the rest of your life if you don't put your foot down right now. People will treat you however you LET them treat you and they will only do whatever they can get away with. Once you decide not to hang out with these 'friends' anymore they will try to lure you back by promising to be nicer. Abusers always do- because they want SOMEONE to be mean to. This is a trick. Don't fall for it. Then they will try to make your life a living hell for NOT coming back- but you have to pretend like you don't care. If they can't get a rise out of you, they'll move on. They get satisfaction out of other people's pain- so don't show any. Pretend you are bored by them. It'll be like a two year old screaming a fit- but IGNORE them- AVOID them. Get in an activity where you CAN'T spend time with them anymore. It's a rough ride but you can do this. Understand this- you MUST have something special about you. I know this because abusers only go after those they are threatened by. There must be something in you or about you that they don't have and want to keep caged so it doesn't outshine them. All girls are jealous of other girls at one time or another- but some take it overboard. Don't let them cage you. Your life is not to be decided by a bunch of b*tches. Ditch these harpies- real friends WANT you to shine. No person who is your friend would even dare to let you go through an ounce of heartache because of their actions- EVER.

Shine on, sweets.

Posted by Dani on Saturday, 11/3/07 - 4:55pm

thanks .
it actually helped alot, i started to hang out with different people....well mostly.
i do not know why but yah in some classes we sit together and at lunch we sit together..
but then in most of our classes we are apart and i have learned how much other people like me, im not trying to be prude, but they really think i am NICE.
instead of making fun of me they try to make themselves seem funny to me, and i love them for it.
i may never be able to detach myself totally from that group of "friends" but i will always know in my heart that i still liked by some.

Posted by writer on Sunday, 11/4/07 - 12:02am

one of my favourite lines: "I've upped my standards. Now, up yours." Take it to heart my dear.

Posted by Schmucks on Sunday, 11/4/07 - 12:29am

leave them
find some new friends
or a new hobby
or a cd player/ipod
or a card game
or anything really

Posted by on Sunday, 12/9/07 - 10:34pm

I know it's a dumb suggestion, but mabye you should First find new friends and then leave the ones you hang out with....I am trying to do that myself

Posted by sharon on Friday, 02/1/08 - 3:14am