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Posted On Wednesday, April 2, 2008
My friend went out with this guy for about a year and 5 months. they were completly in love. i have never seen anyone so in love. not even my parents. The relationship was secret because he moved across the country. They started dating in octobor of 2006, and he moved in january of 2007. They were so in love that he gave her a ring and basically proposed to her. And she accepted. It was a promise ring. I didnt think it would ever end.. She was crushed but they kept it going. They would talk every night for hours and he would visit as much as he could. So its not like the relationship ended. He just broke up with her after a year and 5 months of love. They have been separated for a month. She is so devastated, and i dont know what to do. He asked out another girl 2 days after he broke up with her, which made her feel so upset. She is angry and crys all the time, and im not comforting and dont know what to say to make her feel better. He wont call her so she just sits in her room and cries. What are her options? She says she will never get over him, and i dont know what to say to that. Im worried for her. i wish i could do something. what should she do? what should i do? i really need help. she calls crying histarically about him, and i just say im sorry and try to make her feel better. But it never works. what do i do?
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6 comments (post a new comment)That sucks for the both of you. Well there really isnt that much you can do. Its her decision whether or not she wants to move on. You can only do so much. Even though it may not seem significant, your comforting and trying to make her feel better will get her self-esteem higher day by day.
Just continue to lend a crying shoulder and point out the great qualities and characteristics in her life.
good luck!
Posted by Bridget on Wednesday, 04/2/08 - 8:00pm
just try to distract her with doing other things to get her mind off it as much as possible and basically just be there for her to talk.your being a good friend just by listening
Posted by Advice on Sunday, 04/6/08 - 6:04pm
I know it sounds so cliche...but maybe she should go and talk to a counsellor..it can help...I have done that and sometimes talking to someone you don't know helps with the acceptance of a situation....that's what they're there for....good luck to the both of you ...sounds like you're the kind of friend I wish I had!
Posted by L on Monday, 04/7/08 - 11:52am
the counsellor will probably molest her,seen the news lately?the're all rapists,so are doctors.
Posted by anon on Tuesday, 04/8/08 - 6:43pm
Well i told her that and she freaked out at me and said that she wasnt crazy. so yeah... i dont think that would happen. it would def help though. but her parents would not allow that. they arent very supportive... and they are struggling with money. its just so hard knowing what to say when she calls me late at night crying about everything.
Posted by K on Sunday, 04/13/08 - 7:40pm
You're very kind to be so concerned for your friend- I'm sure when she gets over this she'll be very grateful, and perhaps a bit guilty. Personally I think she should pull herself together but that's beside the point... She'll get over it. I'm sure you yourself have gone through painful times that you couldn't imagine getting through, but you did, and you've been happy since. Behavior influences attitude, so the best thing you can do is force her to do fun stuff- she'll probably hate it and mope at first, but eventually her brain will follow her body and she'll be right as rain in no time.
Posted by xx on Monday, 04/21/08 - 4:12pm