I understand your frustration but you cannot change who you are.Noboby can.You can pray all day and you can flirt with girls and you can even lie to yourself and manage to convince yourself that you are not truly gay but none of these will manage to"convert" you.In the end all that you will achieve will be a miserable life filled with regrets and lies and utter loneliness.You did not choose to be gay,true,but you have other choices.You can choose the way your life will be.You don't have to be stuck.It's all up to you.You are not merely defined by your sexuality.You say you won't be able to live a normal life-you have to remember that the definitions of normality changed and are constantly being challanged.You should be concerned with living a fulfilled life,one that meets your expectations and makes you happy.There is nothing wrong and nothing shameful about being gay,no matter what religious hypocrits say.What is truly wrong is living a lie,lying to yourself.You have a choice not to do that.Just accept who you are first of all and once you have done this,"coming out" will cease to seem such a terrifying experience.Simply be yourself.You will never be happy otherwise.There will always be people that will not accept you based on your sexual orientation,but those people are not worth it,anyway.Good luck

Posted by l. on Tuesday, 06/10/08 - 3:36am

Every day gays are becoming more and more accepted. I sometimes wonder if i am gay myself. I can't say i know exactly what you're going through but i do know, you will never be truly happy until you let everyone see the real you. You can take as long as you want b/c first, you need to accept yourself, then as you open up, others will accept you too.

Posted by R on Tuesday, 06/10/08 - 3:20pm

You'll chill out after you've had your first dick.
By the way, got any plans this evening?

Posted by Resistance is futile, strength is irrelevant on Tuesday, 06/10/08 - 11:56pm

Hello,

I'm doing research for a book. The purpose of the book is to help people like yourself deal with issues that you are dealing with. The author is a counselor. Part of the book will be interviews with people just like you. Of course, the interviews are anonymous. Would you be interested in helping with this project? The interview is only 16 questions and would be sent via email.

If you'd like to help, please send an email to tampaman41 (at) yahoo (dot) com.

Thanks... and I hope to hear from you. I also hope you can work through your issues. Life is too short to have to worry about such things. Try to live well and focus on the positive.

best regards,
Al

Posted by Al on Tuesday, 09/23/08 - 3:22am

what the fuck hank? thats so fucked up. to the poster, you should not be ashamed if you are gay at all. there's nothing wrong with it at all. as dwayne from little miss sunshine says "do what you love and fuck the rest" meaning just do what makes you happy and dont care about what anyone thinks of it.

Posted by fgk on Tuesday, 09/23/08 - 4:32pm