Don't do it.....break it off. You will never be happy if this is how you are going to start off. I believe there is someone special out there for everyone; you just haven't met him yet. If you go ahead and get married, the crap you have to go through to end it, i.e., divorce = lawyers, marital property, children? Totally not worth it. Really, if you are not happy, don't do it. You will regret it. You do deserve to be happy. Good luck.

Posted by anon on Friday, 06/27/08 - 5:14pm

can't agree with anon strongly enough. Don't do it! If you're not jumping for joy at the idea of being with him then that's more than bells going off it's friggin' tornado sirens.

Posted by b on Friday, 06/27/08 - 7:40pm

I agree with both anon & b, run for the hills. Don't walk - RUN!!!! Or else... go to jail, do not pass GO, yada yada yada. Get my drift? Live together forever, but don't get married. As my mother used to say about marriage, takes $5 to get in, $500 to get out. She told me this thirty years ago. Now accounting for inflation, what do you think it would cost? If he is pushing you into it, just think how controlling you are allowing him to be. Think about it.

Posted by bonbon on Friday, 06/27/08 - 10:30pm

I agree with agree with bonbon and both anon and b. Don't do it! Are you afraid of being alone forever?
Are you stuck in some comfort zone because you know him? Do you have a lot of ties or commitments together that make escape difficult? Why are you in capable of being honest with him? How in tune is he with your feelings that he can't see how much you dislike him? Strange situation.

Posted by con on Saturday, 06/28/08 - 1:15am