I am crushing on an ER nurse friend!
Posted On Sunday, February 7, 2010
I met an ER nurse awhile back while on duty (im a cop). I am married and on the verge of separation. She is separated from a guy I work with. We have nice personal talks and she has given me some great advice. It feels awesome to have someone seem like they really care about you. Did I mention she is drop dead gorgeous! I feel so wrong for feeling this way about her, yet still find myself visiting her at work when I get a free moment between calls. I have no idea how she feels about me and to be honest i am too much of a wuss to ask or tell her how I feel. Just seems like its too soon to go that route. She probably is just being nice...I just want to be able to feel free and be myself and show her who I really am, not what my problems are! I am tired of feeling like she is my shrink. I just want a chance to gout out with her and have a good time without worrying about anything!
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1 comments (post a new comment)I have to say I'm more amazed that you are less concerned about the status of your current relationship and that of your ER nurse to your friend than you are about how to pursue her! This is not a criticism, because I don't have enough information regarding either one of you to make such a criticism.
So, please, allow me to speak from what you have said, so as to leave you some things to think about (if you haven't already done so)....
1)It seems to me that you have already ruled out any possibility of reconciliation with the woman from whom are NOT yet even separated, right?
Has this relationship been going sour for a rather long time? If not, what basis would your nurse friend have for believing you will not be responsive to her merely because you are on the rebound, healing from fresh wounds?
2)What really is the status of her relationship with your friend? Are they looking at a reconciliation also? A lot needs to be said for the fact that they still have NOT yet divorced. Would she be on the rebound too? Will this friend of yours view you as some sort of slimy opportunist, moving in to his territory at the first sign of weakness?
Do you even know any of this about her? Or has she been your therapist/coach without any reciprocation as a listening ear for her? If you went any further with this nurse, do you realize your wife could blame her for your relationship going sour, calling you unfaithful? Would you even care? Your wife may get the impression that this proves you never wanted your marriage to work out anyway. Your bed didn't even have a chance to get cold!
When you have resolved the above, we'll throw out some ideas on approaching your lady nurse friend.
Posted by YNN on Sunday, 02/7/10 - 1:51pm