Too straight to be gay

It is because you come off as straight.

Posted by YNN on Friday, 11/13/09 - 6:36pm

figures..how do i change that? or should i change that? me coming off as straight is kinda who i am :) i act out straight. i would feel uncomfortable acting anything other than what i act now..even though i`m gay

Posted by yetagain on Friday, 11/13/09 - 7:36pm

Why change? It puts you right in the center of the action, if you like straight guys. You'll always have a steady supply of potential "meat." I would love to have more straight male friends. But instead, it'a always women--no complaint! We always have lots of fun so I love the company of women too, but it doesn't exactly do much for one's social life when you're always competing for guys.

Since many of us gays love straight meat, that makes you even more appealing to the gays. Yet, at the same time, straight guys will let their guard down with you. This is just not so with less "masculine-acting" gays. I suspect this is also why they tend to avoid us. The second reason is they don't want to be labeled themselves as "fags" for hanging around us.

Embrace your natural manliness. I'm very jealous of you. The rest of us have to work very hard to "act" masculine. Sometimes, I do slip, so I tend not to attract the company of hardly ANY straight guys. For me, that really sucks!

Posted by YNN on Saturday, 11/14/09 - 2:03am

But you see, i get along with straight guys, but i barely have gay friends (2 actually - with one of them i used to have sex, but then i got bored, and the other one i consider to effeminate for us to even start sth together). The point is that i think my straightness drives gay guys away..which is not something that i would like to happen.

take for example, one of my latest straight guy friends; i met him through work; i`m pretty sure he`s straight, but i`m falling for him. we talk pretty often but i can`t seem to find the right opportunity to ask him out (we always go out surrounded by his friends mostly). and i think that it would be weird for me to ask him out considering that he considers me to be straight.

Even some of my gay friends would not think of me as gay (so much for gaydar :))), my female friends, even though they know i`m gay - they keep talking to me about girls and that i should get together with i don`t know what girl :)).

So you see it sucks, i really don`t understand why people think i`m straight - from my point of view it`s pretty clear i`m gay as hell - i`m fashion oriented, i watch all these gay oriented shows, i even act girly at times, but no one seems to get the fact that i`m gay :)) even though i bring up "gay" subjects in conversations with straight/gay guys :)).

You shouldn`t be jealous of me. I think looking gay-er only gives the impression of actually being gay, which increases ur chances of meeting gay people, whereas coming off as straigh may give the impression that u`re straight so gay guys don`t even hit on you, which trust me..sucks

Posted by yetagain on Saturday, 11/14/09 - 4:46pm

As often as you've been on gay sites, how could you not see how desirable your straightness makes you! You even demonstrated the very discrimination I'm referring to!

Let's review here: You said 'one guy was too effeminate to even start something with'! See what I mean? --Another effeminate guy will not take him, if I wanted a girl I would date one! A tranny won't do him. And you just proved that even some straight-acting guys like yourself would reject him. So what's left for him really? No one, except desperate guys who just want their dick sucked.

The only reason a gayer looking guy might get more cock is because any guy who wants their dick sucked knows this guy will give it up without a fight. He's not even intimidating to approach.

You, on the other hand, are very intimidating to approach because I'll assume 1) He could pretty much have anyone he wants, why should he consider a fag like me? 2) What if he's really not gay, then I'll get my ass beat badly if I so much as look at him wrong. 3)All his friends are straight, so he wants another straight-acting guy, not me. Besides when his friends see him talking to me, they'll make fun of him...and me. 4) Perhaps, I should just wait and see if he makes a move on me or something first, then I'll go for it.

Trust me, it's not because your less desirable at all. Read Craigslist, for example. When was the last time someone asked to for queer-acting or effeminate guy?

Posted by YNN on Saturday, 11/14/09 - 5:27pm