sick and twisted...

are you sure there isnt something wrong with you?! like in your head? maybe you should be checked.

Posted by justin09 on Saturday, 01/31/09 - 12:16am

I think that's precisely what the author is trying to say, Justin.

When the thought of this person comes up, reject it, each and every time it comes up. And then, ALWAYS replace it with a more pleasant thought OR with some item that requires extreme mental concentration from you. (For me, I try to recall one or two math formulas like converting Celsius to Fahrenheit, and its inverse (from Fahrenheit to Celsius, or Kelvin). At least you can be psycho and smart until the obsessive, intrusive thoughts go away.

In time, this trick becomes second nature. It can help for sleep too.

Posted by YNN on Saturday, 01/31/09 - 2:00am

Electro-shock therapy works too. Then you don't have to be some kind of nerd calculating math problems.

Here's what you do, everytime you think of the the person you don't want to be with, stick your tongue in an electrical socket. Eventually, you will associate that person with something bad and you will stop thinking of him/her. Unless you are really some sort of freak, then you just might have intense orgasms every time you get shocked and become obsessed with the person even more. Either way, it would be electrifying/electrifrying.

Posted by CNN on Saturday, 01/31/09 - 8:56am

Thank you CNN for the disturbing news. Because of the high probability of tragic side effects associated with the use of electroshock therapy (and other electrical devices), I still think the nerd route is the best way to go. I don't recommend actually calculating the math problems, but rather, memorizing their formulas because, quite honestly, my suggestion has actually worked.

Posted by YNN on Saturday, 01/31/09 - 3:25pm

I feel bad for this person. This sucks. And neither CNN or YNN have given this person proper advice. In reality, this isn't that rare. It happens to the best of us, and you can't always help it.

Posted by kaylee-marie on Saturday, 01/31/09 - 4:25pm

and what if he aint got no one to give advise to him at home where hes at.may be you people is the only ones that can help him but you aint helping him none.hes may be in love with the furst person and he aint got no choice but to go back to where there at.

Posted by jimmy on Saturday, 01/31/09 - 7:58pm

Well, Kaylee, I'm sorry, I missed the part where you gave your suggestion. If a person has trouble getting something/someone off their minds, they must actively redirect their minds attention. Controlling the emotion only works if they can control the thoughts that keep pushing one to that direction, right??? How do you control the thoughts that just keep racing, without medication? This is the help the person must ultimately be asking for, right? She could talk to someone, but this is very limited and very temporary. An immediate SOLUTION--And mind you, one that came with two thumbs up from the psychotherapists I work with is the undervalued advice stated above in comment number one!

Posted by YNN on Sunday, 02/1/09 - 12:32am

i am the bomber here, and trust me, if your advice would have worked, it would have worked by now. so thanks, but hopefully youll come up with beter next time.

Posted by bomber on Thursday, 02/5/09 - 3:17pm

Bomber, I can assure it would NOT have worked by now. Emotions don't just dry up and go away that easily. This, like all addictions (or infatuations), requires an incredible amount of time and energy to overcome them.

The point I'm trying to make is YOU NEED A CONTINUOUS DISTRACTION. Develop and explore new hobbies. Go shopping to get some ideas!

You are not the only one who's gone through this. When I had to get over an unhealthy infatuation I learned to produce and mix music. I never thought a nerd like me could be busy, or happy, with anything. I just wanted her--NOT a healthy desire (or person) for me at the time.

Six months later, I don't care even slightly what she's up to. I spend time in music stores, buying equipment and books that allow me to reconstruct other popular songs. No one may ever hear what I've produced, but it doesn't matter. It's a nice, new hobby (DISTRACTION) for me. That's what you need: Patience and a continuous, relentless diversion that is WORTH your time and attention.

Posted by YNN on Thursday, 02/5/09 - 4:43pm

Yeah, trust me i have tried EVERYTHING. i always think hes out of my head and then he 'comes back around'. i am in a happy, happy relationship with someone else so i know this is totally wrong, but i almost feel like i cant help it. besides i know you say it takes time, but seriously its been over 3 years now, so what am i to do? besides give up 'my live' as i know it for this stupid 'addiction' i have. this is killing me inside. please, someone help...please?!?

Posted by Bomber on Friday, 02/6/09 - 10:28pm

its alright no one is perfect and just the fact that you confeseed this here means you must have a hear of gold and are really trying, maybe you trully love this person and should c where it can go?

Posted by u2sweeet on Sunday, 02/8/09 - 9:52pm

yeah. ive tried everything like i said. this sucks. worst feeling i think ive ever had.

Posted by bomber on Sunday, 02/8/09 - 10:22pm

keep hanging on. be strong. someone out there loves you. you will get through this.

Posted by aww on Monday, 02/9/09 - 9:49pm

alright, i think it is an addiction. i think i love this person.

Posted by bomber on Monday, 02/9/09 - 9:50pm

okay seriously get over yourself 'bomber'. or else just tell the person the truth. thats what you need to do.

Posted by ok on Monday, 02/9/09 - 10:51pm

I wouldn't tell the person how I felt, that's just setting yourself up to be used like a doormat. Not only that, it would make the addiction worse. Anyone this desperate might just off herself as soon as something went wrong! Why give that kind of advice?

That's like telling a heroin addict to just "go for it and surrender yourself to the heroin!"

The first part of "OK's" advice is right--she does need to get over herself.

Posted by enough on Tuesday, 02/10/09 - 12:28pm

dont ever tell this person how you feel. they will most certainly use it against you. thats what they always do.

Posted by NOTenough on Tuesday, 02/10/09 - 3:44pm

dont worry. i dont think i will ever tell this person how i feel. i still think the 'thoughts' are there but ive discovered that no one in life is worth this much of a headache. not even him as awesome as he can be sometimes. this is why i trust no one in life. i thought i could but i know i cant.

Posted by bomber on Tuesday, 02/10/09 - 3:46pm

okay. struggling again. i do think its love. how could the heart want to love two people at once? this is horrible.

Posted by bomber on Saturday, 02/21/09 - 9:13am

i am married and currently going through the exact same thing it will work out im sure dont wory. besides life is just to short to worry you are actually really lucky beaucse most people dont find love with one much less two people in life

Posted by dont worry on Saturday, 02/21/09 - 5:48pm

i wish i was loved by just one person, and here you are having something tath seems to real with 2 im jealous best of luck bomber!

Posted by luckyu on Tuesday, 03/3/09 - 9:03pm

:)

Posted by e on Tuesday, 01/12/10 - 2:57pm